If I've learned anything as a parent, business-owner, and performer, it's that everyone else seems to know the PERFECT way to do things, even if they aren't perfect for YOU.
And when you aren't able to live up to that perfect expectation it leaves you feeling... well... less than.
Your work becomes less than adequate.
You passions are less than important.
You are worth less than other people.
All because you are less than PERFECT!
Well how DARE anyone make you feel that way!
ESPECIALLY if the someone making you feel that way is... ahem...
Because we all have a little perfectionist inside us. So here are three tips for moving through your perfectionism spiral and LOVING where you are RIGHT NOW!
1- Identify It
Your Perfectionism Spiral starts with one voice – the voice of your Inner Critic. That little voice inside you that likes to tell you (in a variety of sneaky and subtle ways) that you can’t do something. Notice when it comes up. Once you tune in to it, you’ll start finding ways it sabotages you ALL THE TIME! Don’t give in! NEVER SURRENDER!
2- Question It
Is this statement true?
Is it truly 100% true that you can do NOTHING until [xyz…] happens? The answer could honestly be yes… But usually with the BIG things there is SOMETHING you can do.
Maybe you really CAN’T train for your first Spartan Sprint because you just developed shin splints (ouch!), or you can’t mentally start focus on losing weight because you’re trying to buy a new house (trust me…this is stressful…). You CAN still focus on A) recovering as completely and quickly as possible or B) give yourself a small food goal, like starting to eat more dark leafy greens.
3- Let go of Black and White Thinking
I, like many others, grew up with Black and White thinking. An All or Nothing mentality. It’s wasn’t anyone’s fault specifically, just something that pervades our society as a whole. It gets into our heads in a million sneaky ways until it’s so a part of us that we don’t even realize we are doing it.
Let go of it. Learn to love the GRAY! Know that you are still being productive and working towards your goals if you get a 5 minute walk in instead of a 30 minute. You’re still de-stressing, moving your body, lubricating your joints – all good things!
Even just a little when you planned A LOT is still better than NOTHING!
The goal is to LIVE life. Not create a perfect one based on someone else's Instagram reel.
So, what is one concrete action you can take TODAY to stand up to your Inner Critic?
Shoot me an e-mail to find out how I can help you calm the negative Nancy and find acceptance in yourself and your body.