(...You Can Too!)
My kid doesn't sleep.
He hasn't for a little over a month now. I mean... he sleeps... but not enough. I can't figure out why. He's fine it seems. But I'm exhausted. I am cranky more often than not. And every time he poops I get it on my hand. (EVERY. DAMN. TIME.)
Today was no different. In an attempt to get more sleep, I told Kevin I would trade him more sleep for walking the dog later. This is a bit of an ordeal because I'm doing it with a baby and a stroller and my dog is a bit of a dumb dumb and likes running TOWARDS cars... not away. So it's not a super easy task doing it with the baby in tow as well.
But... later we head out for our walk. I've gotten like an extra half hour of sleep so I'm still exhausted but surviving. And I look down at my dogs leash and it has dog poop on it. I'm always surrounded by poop apparently. Thank god for water, soap, and Purell. So now I'm walking a baby in a stroller and a dog on a leash that has poop on it. It's a coordination NIGHTMARE.
We head out and make a loop. It's super foggy so we don't go far and my dog is lagging behind so I'm basically dragging him the whole way. And on our way back something pretty magical happens that changes my whole perspective for the day.
I found a dollar on the ground.
It's all wet and covered in dirt and not super fancy looking. But it's a dollar! It's FREE money! And in that moment I made the decision to stop our little troupe dead in our tracks, look up to the sky and shout, "THANK YOU UNIVERSE!"
I took my crumpled dirty dollar back home with us, washed it off and left it to dry, and now it sits in my pocket, waiting to be spent on something wonderful.
I honestly felt grateful! Partially for the money sure. But really, hey, it's only a dollar. I felt grateful because that one tiny thing was able to turn my whole day around because I let it. I made the choice, in that moment, that that was the turning point. I could have chosen to focus on the amount of feces in my life BUT. I. DIDN'T.
This is the power of choice.
Whether you're trying to lose weight, de-stress, or make more money, you always have a choice about how to feel about your circumstances.
Want to lose 10 pounds and you know that means cutting out sugar? Great! Less money spent on dessert and more money for awesome experiences! Know that in order to get some more alone time you need to say no to engagements with friends? Awesome! More time to finish that book you're loving!
Gratitude is KEY. No matter what's happening, find something to be grateful for. Make a habit of it. Make it a game. Write about it in your journal or call a friend to tell them what you're grateful for. (Instead of calling them to complain about that co-worker of yours... AGAIN...)
CHOOSE to feel grateful. That's your superpower ;)
We’ve all heard the old adage,
If you want something done right you have to do it yourself.
And so we tuck our heads down and truck along doing everything we can to keep moving. All the while stress upon stress upon stress is just building up on top of us.
We are able to really gain momentum this way! We can get things done quickly and efficiently when we are in the zone – as long as nothing disturbs the flow.
We are in our own little bubble.
However, eventually one more thing will be added and that bubble will BURST! We will burn out. We’ve tried too hard for too long and there’s nothing left. No more gas to make the car go.
And when we finally take a moment to look up we realize we are alone. We try so hard to make sure deadlines were met, kids got where they needed to go, meals got made, exercise was had, that we ignore everyone else around us.
So I’d like to suggest a replacement saying:
If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, go together.
Each of us is on our own path, carving our own way through life. But that doesn’t mean that paths have to be solo through the woods. They can criss-cross and run parallel to each other. They can be so close together that one can lend a hand to the other.
This “healthy” thing? It’s not only a solo journey. You may be a highly independent person, but you’ll still need help sometimes. And it’s ok to ask for it!
It’s all well and good to go to yoga for a month straight, or make homemade meals for a month. But I was once this person. Doing it all perfectly for a short period and then came the burnout. I know – from first hand experience – how easily and quickly this can all break down if you don’t have a support system in place.
I challenge you to go far. And I challenge you to go together.
Find someone to guide you along your journey. We need someone who keeps us accountable, honest, and human. We are not perfect beings, but we are also not weak. We are strong and fallible.
Guidance is what a coach provides. Someone like me (wellness coach), a personal trainer, yoga teacher, or life coach. They keep you on track, keep you honest, and keep you from biting off more or less than you can chew. They push you to be your best self, while reminding you that no matter how awesome you become, you’re still human.
So, instead of promising yourself that you’ll visit the gym EVERY DAY, or that you’ll cut out all animal products, or something else drastic like that – reach out. Get help. Build a team around you. A team who’s sole job is to make you the most AWESOME person you can be.
And start right here! With me. E-mail me to schedule a free consultation to find out how you can achieve your goals in health and wellness.
Let’s talk about Will power for a second.
You’re probably under the impression that in order to succeed at being healthy person you just need more willpower. You just need to do it.
There’s this idea that you just need to commit a little bit more or dig down deep enough and you will be able to do that.
And I’m gonna tell you that’s not true. More than that... YOU'RE TRYING TOO HARD!
WhLike... rolling a heavy boulder up a steep hill kind of too hard.
Will power is actually something that the brain runs out of over a period of time. That's why sleep and food are SOOOOO important. So that you can recharge your batteries. The batteries that you are recharging willpower.
It's also why DIETS are CRAP! (Cause... ya know.. you're starving yourself and then trying to keep making good decisions... ya dig?)
Think about all of your holiday parties. Think about all those times when you go out to get a drink with a coworker. About all the times when you really tend to fall apart in your attempt at being healthy.
Does most of this happen later in the day? Or on a weekend?
Because I bet those office parties or the time spent after work with friends or even those times when feel like you need a glass of wine... those are probably all at the end of the day or week. When fatigue and hunger are greatest!
Those are all harder to resist simply because you’re tired. Because you have quite literally run out of the energy in your brain to have the willpower to maintain those healthy choices.
What it comes down to is not your inadequacies. It’s not you being a lesser person in anyway. It’s a literally just biology. You're welcome to read about it here, from like, scientists and stuff...
If you were able to take a two-hour nap in the middle of the day and made sure you ate a snack, I bet it would be significantly easier for you to avoid the nachos at the bar later that evening (...which is what I always end up eating lots of... Cause they’re delicious...)
So comment below... are YOU feeding and resting your brain? Instead of try try trying... can you give yourself a break? Or a nap?
Are you giving yourself a fighting chance at making the choices YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO MAKE to improve your health?